In the last few months I have been rather sad. It has become obvious that one of my closest friendships has deteriorated. Although I'm not sure you can label a reason, I think it is just a drifting away. Losing a friend is one of the worst feelings ever. I do believe though that in different seasons of life, different people are in your life for a reason. I'm not lucky enough to have a best friend from birth. However, I have been blessed to have had several best friends throughout my lifetime. Even though we aren't close now, I still look back with positive thoughts and memories of them. They will always have a special place in my heart.
I'm not a person that needs lots of friends. I'm not that good at keeping in touch anyway so it is probably a good thing :) I am married to a wonderful friend. He is also my rock. I love traveling through life with him by my side. He balances me out often times and I think I do the same for him. My mom and I have a great friendship and she can be the tough love friend that I need and the biggest supporter of me. Those two are my best of the best friends I have. I think one thing I have learned about friendship from them is that both of them can be the people who annoy me the most, and I can be the same to them. But at the end of the day, we can get over it and the love we have for each other surpasses the anger. In high school and college, my two closest girlfriends and I had completely different views on most everything. We were able to set that aside and just enjoy each other. In my opinion, that is what a friendship should be. You should make allowances for one another. See the other person as Jesus would see them as my Grandma would say.
I have several other good friends. When I was younger I used to say that God was my best friend and then I have 27 close friends :P I never wanted to hurt anyone by saying someone was my best friend even though in my mind I probably had one. We have been talking with Anna about how she can have several best friends. She is such a social butterfly that I'm sure if she had Facebook she would be the one to have thousands of friends :P When we go to church, more people say hi to her than me!
My mom and I were talking the other day about best friends. We chatted about what we would want in a best friend and how it is lonely if you don't have one. I want to know about other people's best friends. Have you had them for a long time? What makes them your best friend? What does it mean to be a friend?
What a great post. I, too, do not keep my "best friends" for life. In fact, I came to realize during college that I rarely keep them for more than 2-3 years, though I do keep in touch with them for life. There are a few exceptions to this rule, but even then, there was always a falling out around that same time. Then the friendship was rekindled. I consider myself lucky that I can have so many numerous best friends throughout my life, people that I know I have learned and grown from. I can only hope it is reciprocated.
ReplyDeleteSo you ask, what do I look for in a best friend? Humor, a youthful imagination, appreciation for adventure, and honesty.
In my history, they have always been avid readers, open-minded, and great listeners. Though not required, I can see now, these traits were strong in all of my best friends.
Like you, my bestest friend is my boyfriend. We enjoy spending time together, hate going more than hours without talking to each other, prefer solidarity in the other's company, but also can annoy one another. I'm lucky that three years later, we can still have a discussion and learn something new.
But back to your point, although I have him, I would go crazy if I didn't have a friend to supplement my life.
I am so sorry about your friendship. That makes me so sad.
ReplyDeleteLove you! and know that you are my friend! :)
I love you!!! I don't know if you're talking about me, and I feel pretty vain to assume that you were. But, I feel horrible for putting our friendship on the back-burner. I had no idea you were feeling so down, and that is so completely my fault! Even when you tried to call, it took me three days to even get the message and then I got distracted and didn't call you back!! I really feel so bad. I want you to know that even though I've been busy and completely thoughtless, I never stop thinking about you guys and I still consider you one of my best friends, if not like a sister. Sometimes, I only hear from my sisters from my parents or facebook, but I still know they are always there for me when I need them and I there for them. I think I feel like we had kind of gotten to that point, but I totally took it for granted! Especially since we've moved even farther away. I'm sure you know I'm not trying to punish you for not agreeing with me on every little issue. If that were the case, we'd never have been friends. I just want you to know that I'll always consider you one of my best and only concrete friends. In the Air Force, friends definetly seem to come and go with the tides of being re-stationed, but only some friends are there like family. I consider you family, and always will!
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